My marriage life

Today I’m going to talk about my marriage life. What my wife and I do to make our marriage works. As mentioned in my previous blog Marriage Counselling before saying I do my wife and I have been married for more than 4 years now with 2 beautiful kids (can’t stop thanking God for his wonderful blessing).


Holidays
My wife and I planned that we should have an overseas holiday at least once a year. But due to my working schedule, many holidays plan have to be postponed or cancelled. But instead of having an argument over it, my wife came up with a good plan, just pack our bags on weekends and stay in a luxury hotel. Any hotel will do as long as it is 5 stars, even if the hotel is only ½ hour drive from our house. It is indeed a good relaxation, just my wife and I, even if it for a quick getaway. My point is, it is not the end of the world if things do not turn out the way you and your spouse wants it and there is always a solution if both parties willing to think of one.

Bills
We have discussed on the who-need-to-pay-what even before married and we are very committed to it but of course we are flexible on this, helping each other out when we are short of cash. I have seen a lot of couples fail on this, one party will neglect to commit after awhile.

Freedom
For those who want a 100% freedom after married, PLESE THINK TWICE before you says “I do”. You have to take away the “I” and replace with “WE” after married. However, my wife and I agreed to have a personal time off once a week. She will have her lady nights out and I’ll have my boy nights out.

Talks and discussion
Think this is the most important stuff do to. After awhile husband and wife do not talk to one another anymore, and when they do it will be an argument. My wife and I will talk on everything, our daily life, things happen in office, TV shows, things we read in newspaper/magazine and etc, etc. Of course we do argue sometime (don’t think there is one couple who do not argue), a talk can become a discussion and from discussion can become an argument. But after argument we will let the hatred cool down and we will either continue to talk and think of a solution if the talks are important or just forget about it if it is just a silly argument.

Patient
I guess this is the key to every successful marriage. We just have to be patient with each other, listen to each other needs. We may not always give want our spouse want but at least being patient with them will definitely make a huge different. For example, I like things to be neat and tidy but wife on the other hand will place stuff all over the place. I once scolded my wife for being such a messy person but then again this is how she is the very 1st time we met. So instead of scolding her after awhile, I’ll just let the mess at it is until when everyone go to bed I’ll do the clean up (I’m not the person who can sleep knowing the mess is all over the place and wait for my maid to clean up the next morning). She’s happy, I’m happy and we all can have a good night sleep.

Like I said before, head for marriage counsel before marry, then you will understand what you spouse want in marriage life, continue if you sincerely think you can handle your spouse needs, stop if you are not ready. Remember, there is no in-between. From there it is up to you and your spouse how to make the marriage a successful one.